Have you ever thought that you are afraid of rejection? In your personal life, in your professional life, and in general in society… And have you thought about how many opportunities you miss because of this fear? In this post, I will share with you my thoughts on how to get rid of this fear and become not only a confident person, but also create a happy life.

It is possible to build good, healthy relationships, even if you are afraid of being rejected. Moreover, if you are not afraid of being rejected, then this can bring you many benefits. For example, maybe you’re afraid to take risks at work or in your professional life, or afraid to call someone, or don’t take advantage of opportunities simply out of fear of being rejected. Perhaps you have a constant anxiety when meeting new people, all because of this fear that you will be rejected. So how can we stop being afraid of rejection?

First, you need to understand that failures are a very complex, confusing thing. There are many reasons why people may refuse us. Maybe we’re not their type, maybe they’re busy, maybe they didn’t get much hugs as kids, maybe they don’t have time. There are so many reasons why they might refuse us that have nothing to do with you, with your true worth.

We don’t understand this. We don’t think about other people. We think only of ourselves and our insecurities. And then we use our insecurities to create a story about why we were rejected. Although, in fact, very often their refusal has nothing to do with us.

Let’s say you were rejected (did not continue the relationship) because of your appearance, or rather, it did not match the expectations or standards of the opposite side. This is also a difficult thing. After all, in fact, this speaks of the problems of this person who wants to fall in love with a person with a certain appearance. This suggests that this person severely limits himself in his personal life, obsessing over only one type of appearance, and has a superficial view of things. In fact, this is a very complex problem, although it seems to them that this is specifically one problem.

Secondly, appreciate yourself for your character, for your personality. When we appreciate superficial things that we have no control over, we can become insecure and vulnerable because we have no control over them. A lot more happiness will come from focusing on our inner values ​​and our accomplishments. We need to be proud of ourselves. So how can this be achieved? Very simple! Every day, create a small success for yourself in the form of some kind of achievement. And then you will be proud of yourself and you will like yourself. As a result, you will have an inner support that will help you not to wait for someone else’s approval. It will not matter to you whether someone likes you or not, because you will like yourself. And when you work on your inner qualities and achievements, no one will ever be able to take this away from you, they will forever remain with you.

To be a confident person, you must first of all like yourself. But this needs to be constantly worked on, day in and day out. You can’t just like yourself. It is necessary to do something for this. You have to win your love for yourself every day by doing something that makes you proud of yourself. If we are proud of ourselves, we will not look for it in the world around us.

There can be many examples of such small daily “victories”. They are individual for everyone. These may include: “just” getting up every day at a certain time, or giving up sweets, or reading 5 pages of a book every day, or going for a walk every day for 30 minutes, etc. In other words, to do something specifically for yourself, which “hands don’t reach” or just laziness, such that it’s easy to do, but force yourself to do it without excuses and without excuses. It is this overcoming, a small victory, that will mean a lot to increase your self-esteem and increase your self-confidence. You will be proud of yourself in the end.

Third, go slow to go fast. What does it mean? Everything you do now will bear fruit sooner or later. And your relationship will be long and strong, thanks to the work that you are doing now. You don’t need to be liked by a lot of people. You need to find people who are just as unique as you, with whom you can build a healthy and happy relationship. In fact, when a person who has done a lot of work on himself meets someone who has also done such work, then this person stands out in his eyes from the crowd, and the connection between such people is unique.